The Blues have nearly infinite variety with
common themes of trauma, tragedy, and a persistent
inability of loved-ones to connect with each other
in a good way.
lives, the surface behaviors are like turbulent
white water on a surging river.
Underneath the surface chaos is a deeper systemic
current that moves steadily, irresistibly in one
direction. The deeper current is existence – life
itself – which we receive from our mother and
father, carry for some time, and
What soothes our troubles is to hear the
steady bass line that plays below our particular
version of the Blues.
For better and worse, we
vibrate with the frequency of our mother and father
as long as we breathe. There is no choice and no
escape, for our breath itself has its source in
them. Incapable parents hit many false notes, but
this needn’t be the dominant melody we play over and
over in our minds.
In a Constellation we keep sharp awareness, while
looking at our issues in a quiet, still way. This
process moves us to accept with compassion that all
88 keys – the high notes and the low - are part of
the music of life. Our mother and father danced to
a tune not of their making, which remains part of
our tune as well.
When we accept our life without accusation or
blaming, as given to us by two imperfect beings, we
can also take in the love and vitality that is our
birthright. Each conception was a “yes” to life, and
deep down, it does not matter how our parents
behaved then or now. What is most important is that
we connect to them in a way that allows the love
that flows from far beyond them to reach us.